310. A Matter of Meaning: What Other People Teach You About Your Communication

"Meaning is about being mindful of the effect you have on other people."
What makes a life meaningful? We often think purpose and meaning are the same thing, but according to Stanford professor Brian Lowery, they're fundamentally different. Purpose is what drives us. Meaning comes from the impact we have on others. In this live episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart from Stanford’s LEAD Me2We event, Lowery and Matt Abrahams examine how our relationships shape who we become, why sincerity matters more than authenticity, and how leaders influence others through every interaction. Along the way, they share practical insights on giving better feedback, building stronger connections, and creating workplaces where people can thrive.

Key Takeaways:

• Meaning comes from your impact on others. Purpose is what drives your actions, but meaning grows when your work positively influences the people around you and continues beyond your own involvement.
• The way you show up shapes the people around you. Leaders create better teams by practicing self-awareness, communicating with sincerity, and giving feedback that recognizes people's intentions while helping them grow.

Activity:

• Notice your influence. At the end of each workday, write down one interaction that may have shaped someone else's experience—positively or negatively. Reflect on what you communicated beyond your words and what you want to do differently tomorrow.

Episode Reference Links:

• Brian Lowery
• Ep.23 Look Within: How to Lead with Self Awareness and Vulnerability
• Ep.84 Quick Thinks: How Others Define Us  
• Ep.142 Power and Persuasion: Live Insights from Stanford Experts 

Connect:

• Premium Signup >>>> Think Fast Talk Smart Premium
• Email Questions & Feedback >>> hello@fastersmarter.io
• Episode Transcripts >>> Think Fast Talk Smart Website
• Newsletter Signup + English Language Learning >>> FasterSmarter.io
• Think Fast Talk Smart >>> LinkedIn, Instagram, YouTube
• Matt Abrahams >>> LinkedIn

 Chapters:

• (00:00) - Introduction
• (00:39) - Purpose vs. Meaning
• (02:12) - The Ripple Effect of Meaning
• (04:06) - How Others Shape Who We Are
• (05:20) - The Leader's Role in Shaping Others
• (08:58) - Self-Awareness & Psychological Safety
• (11:48) - Sincerity vs. "True Self"
• (12:53) - Feedback For Grow
• (17:13) - Becoming Better Humans
• (18:46) - Conclusion

********
Thank you to our sponsors.  These partnerships support the ongoing production of the podcast, allowing us to bring it to you at no cost.

Strawberry.me. Get 50% off your first coaching session today at Strawberry.me/smart

Join our Think Fast Talk Smart Learning Community and become the communicator you want to be.