Stop Feeling Guilty About Porn. Start Watching Better Porn. | Ep. 189

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46% of men watch porn intentionally every week — and I'd bet that number's low, since it only counts the people who admit it. In this updated solo episode, I'm not asking whether you watch porn. I'm asking what you're watching, and what it might be quietly doing to your sex life. I break down what "ethical porn" actually means (informed consent, fair pay, transparency), how mainstream free porn like Pornhub is built around a heterosexual male gaze with real consent and theft problems baked in, and why that content is quietly distorting expectations for midlife couples specifically. I connect the dots between porn consumption and real intimacy avoidance, unpack why midlife bodies can't and shouldn't compete with porn-fantasy bodies, and lay out what changes — for your body, your partner, and your relationship — when you switch to ethically produced content. No shame, no guilt, just an invitation to try something different.

In This Episode:

0:00 The 46% Stat No One Talks About

0:22 Welcome to Taboo to Truth

0:40 Reframing the Real Question: What Are You Watching?

1:58 What "Ethical Porn" Actually Means

3:14 Inside Free Porn: Pornhub, Consent & the Male Gaze

4:40 How Porn Quietly Distorts Midlife Relationships

5:56 Why Midlife Bodies Can't Compete With the Fantasy

6:41 What Changes When the Content Changes

8:02 Ethical Platforms to Know (Make Love Not Porn, Erika Lust & More)

9:19 How to Evaluate Any Platform + Final Takeaway

To watch the video version of this episode, head over to YouTube!

About The Host:

Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.

This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.

Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:

Email: karen@taboototruth.com

Website: https://www.taboototruth.com/

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