How to Turn a Boy Into a Man

Note: This is a rebroadcast.A lot of young men today struggle in finding their footing in adulthood. They feel lost, directionless, and unsure of who they are and how to confidently and competently navigate the world.Part of the reason for this is that most young men today lack something which was once a part of nearly every culture in the world, but has now almost entirely disappeared: a rite of passage.My guest today didn’t want his son to flounder on the way to maturity, nor to miss out on having an initiation into manhood, so he set out to create a 6-year journey for him that would help him move from boy to man. His name is Jon Tyson, and he’s the author of The Intentional Father: A Practical Guide to Raise Sons of Courage and Character. Today on the show, Jon unpacks the components of the years-long journey into manhood he created for his son, beginning with how he brainstormed those components by doing “The Day Your Son Leaves Home” exercise. We then discuss how old Jon’s son was when he started his rite of passage and why it began with him having a “severing dinner” with his mom. We get into what his rite of passage consisted of, from the kickoff ceremony to the challenges, experiences, trips, and daily rituals Jon used to impart values and teach his son the “5 Shifts of Manhood.” Jon shares how moving his son’s focus from being a good man, to being good at being a man, helped him get remotivated to continue the process, why his rite of passage included a gap year after high school, and how Jon celebrated the end of his son’s journey into becoming a man. We also discuss whether Jon did something similar with his daughter. We end our conversation with some key principles any dad can use to start intentionally helping their kids become well-rounded individuals who can confidently step out on their own and into the world.Resources Related to the PodcastAoM Article: The Importance of FathersAoM Article: The Importance of Male Rites of PassageAoM Article: Male Rites of Passage From Around the WorldAoM Article & Podcast: Man’s Need for RitualAoM Series on the origins, elements, and future of manhoodAoM Article: The 7 Habits — Begin With the End in MindAoM Article: The 3 Families Every Young Man Needs to Grow Up WellJames HollisAoM Article: Carry the FireArt of Manliness’ Carry the Fire Zippo LighterAoM Article: What Is Manliness?AoM Podcast #527 With Richard RohrThe Power of Moments: Why Certain Experiences Have Extraordinary Impact by Chip and Dan HeathThe Way of Men by Jack DonovanAoM Podcast #49 With Jack DonovanAoM Series on the Four Archetypes of the Mature MasculineAoM Article: 100 Skills Every Man Should KnowAoM Article: 80+ Quotes on Men & ManhoodConnect With Jon TysonPrimal PathJon on TwitterJon on IG0:00 Introduction0:29 Guest Introduction: John Tyson & The Intentional Father2:28 The Research on Fatherless Boys4:54 What Men Lack Without a Rite of Passage8:37 The "Day Your Son Leaves Home" Exercise10:47 Building an Asset Map & Community of Fathers13:37 The Severing Dinner with Mom17:10 The Beach Initiation Ceremony at Age 1320:42 Taking Your Son Back to Your Roots28:14 The Five Shifts of Manhood31:52 Daily Morning Talks, Books & Movies42:32 Good Man vs. Good AT Being a Man46:28 The Archetypes: Lover, Leader, Warrior, Brother, Sage50:01 The Life Arc Interview56:03 The Gap Year as the Ordeal1:01:16 The Capstone Ceremony on the Camino de Santiago1:04:44 Doing Something Similar for His Daughter1:09:09 Key Principles Any Dad Can Start With TodayThat's 17 — let me trim to the 12 most distinct:0:00 Introduction & Why Rites of Passage Have Disappeared2:28 The Research on Fatherless Boys4:54 What Men Lack Without a Rite of Passage8:37 The "Day Your Son Leaves Home" Exercise13:37 The Severing Dinner & Beach Initiation Ceremony20:42 Taking Your Son Back to Your Roots28:14 The Five Shifts of Manhood31:52 Daily Talks, Books & Movies42:32 Good Man vs. Good at Being a Man50:01 The Life Arc Interview56:03 The Gap Year as the Ordeal1:01:16 The Capstone Ceremony & Key Principles for Any Dad See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.