#011 - Ryan Moresby-White - Nice guys do finish last, no one trusts a man who can't say no and women as a man's greatest initiation.

Something is wrong with men. Not in the way the culture keeps telling us. Not too aggressive, not too dominant, not too much. Wrong in a quieter and far more devastating way. The boy inside never grew up. And nobody noticed. Nobody held a ceremony. Nobody said, that chapter of your life is over, this one begins now. So he kept going. Built the career. Got the girl. Accumulated the evidence. And still woke up every morning feeling like something essential was missing and having absolutely no language for why.Ryan Moresby-White noticed. And he has spent the last decade doing something about it.Born in South Africa, raised in Australia, Ryan walked away from a successful construction career after a breakup cracked him open in a way he didn't expect and couldn't ignore. What he found on the other side became his life's work. Today he has sat with thousands of men at the edge of themselves and helped them cross a threshold they didn't know they needed to cross.You'll hear:Why men keep sabotaging the women they love most. Why the nice guy always ends up alone. Why you can't speak your truth if you were never given the space to discover it. Why it is very easy to be secure when you're single. Why the most powerful men are not the most polished. And why the woman in your life is not the obstacle to your growth. She is the initiation.Chapters03:00 to 09:00 Why men never truly grow up09:00 to 11:10 The difference between trauma and initiation11:10 to 15:30 Why shame runs every male relationship15:30 to 20:00 How shame from childhood shows up in your adult relationship20:00 to 22:00 Ryan's story. The bathroom floor in Bali.22:00 to 25:20 How Ryan let the grief finally bring him to his knees25:20 to 28:00 You can't biohack your way around your grief28:00 to 31:30 Run clubs are just men running from their grief31:30 to 38:00 Ryan climbed to the top and his father still wasn't there38:00 to 41:30 Every man in prison is a hurt little boy41:30 to 44:00 The boy never wanted healing. He wanted holding.44:00 to 48:00 Why your woman is your greatest initiation48:00 to 52:00 Attachment vs authenticity. Why men lose themselves.52:00 to 55:00 The nice guy always loses the woman he loves55:00 to 59:37 No one can trust a man who can't say no59:37 to 01:05:00 What it actually means to be a safe man01:05:00 to 01:12:00 It is very easy to be secure when you're single01:12:00 to 01:18:00 Why men sabotage the love they want most01:18:00 to 01:24:44 Good Will Hunting and the wound that runs everything01:24:44 to 01:32:14 The four archetypes every man needs to integrateWatch Ryan's Documentary "A Rebirth Of The Safe Man":https://youtu.be/BKK9B0o6OAU?is=ozkBqHIMCacJlzjmFollow Ryan: https://www.instagram.com/ryanmoresbywhite/Follow Billy: https://www.instagram.com/billygartonjr/Follow the podcast: https://www.instagram.com/youchoosepodcast/